Double Kisser — The Small Family Customs That Say Who You Are
- deidelfisher
- Jul 21
- 1 min read
Every family has its own customs — little, specific ways of doing things that outsiders notice right away and insiders never think twice about. Maybe it's a greeting: two kisses on the cheek instead of one, a particular way of saying hello, a phrase repeated at every goodbye. These small rituals rarely get written down anywhere. They're just how it's done.
When we film legacy videos, these details come up almost by accident. A grandchild will mention, half-joking, "Grandma's always been a double kisser," and suddenly there's a story underneath it — where the custom came from, what part of the world it traveled from, which relative started it and why.
These small customs are often quiet markers of where a family comes from — carried forward without anyone consciously deciding to keep them alive. Because they're so ordinary to the people who do them, they're rarely thought of as story-worthy until someone points a camera at them and asks: where did that come from?
A few questions worth asking: Is there a greeting, phrase, or small custom that's just "how your family does things"? Do you know where it came from? Has anyone outside the family ever pointed it out or found it unusual?
These small customs are often what make a legacy video feel unmistakably like your family and no one else's.
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